Stephen Ministry

Stephen Ministry Leadership

Stephen Ministers assist individuals and families going through times of crisis or transition. They assist both Grace members and nonmembers.The care given by Stephen Ministers is centered around listening to the needs of the individual. Often people in a life challenging situation become overwhelmed by an event and are unable to focus on their inner selves.

Having an opportunity to talk with a Stephen Minister in a safe, trusting environment sometimes helps a person verbalize thoughts and feelings and to be open to spiritual healing.

Stephen Ministers have gone through an intensive training program designed to equip them for distinctively Christian, one-on-one, caregiving.

Stephen Ministers are trained in a variety of areas including the art of listening, sensing others’ feelings, compassionate assertiveness, maintaining confidentiality, crisis theory and intervention, effective telephone care, praying with people and finding help in the Bible.

Stephen Ministers are taught to recognize needs requiring professional help and to refer an individual to appropriate counselors, physicians or community agencies. Stephen Ministers are not counselors, so they typically do not work in situations that require the skills of a trained professional.

Grace Lutheran’s Stephen Ministry exists to serve God, by bringing God’s healing love to hurting people in one to one Christian care, sharing the love of Jesus Christ.To receive assistance, contact our pastoral liaison.

Q&A About Stephen Ministry

What is Stephen Ministry?

Stephen Ministry is a ministry in our congregation in which trained and supervised lay persons, called Stephen Ministers, provide one-to-one Christian care to individuals facing life challenges or difficulties.

Who is Involved?

Stephen Leaders are the ones who oversee and direct our Stephen Ministry. They recruit, select, train, organize, and supervise our Stephen Ministers, identify people in need of care, and match them with a Stephen Minister. We have six Stephen Leaders: Jim Florine, Don Klug, Ruth Klug, Barbara Kurdelmeier, Richard Mummert and Dave Weber.

Stephen Ministers are the caregivers. They have been through 50 hours of training in Christian caregiving, including general topics such as listening, feelings, boundaries, assertiveness, and using Christian resources in caregiving. In addition, their training covered specialized topics such as ministering to the divorced, hospitalized, bereaved, and aging. We currently have two active Stephen Ministers: Bobi West and  Rochelle Simons. Stephen Leaders are also caregivers.

Care Receivers are the recipients of Stephen Ministers’ care. They are people from our church or community who are experiencing divorce, grief, loss of a job, loneliness, hospitalization, terminal illness or any of an endless number of other life difficulties. Stephen Ministers usually meet with their care receivers once a week for about an hour for as long as the care receiver will benefit by the relationship.

What do Stephen Ministers Do?

Stephen Ministers are caring Christian friends who listen, understand, accept and pray for and with care receivers who are working through a crisis or a tough time.

Are Stephen Ministers Counselors?

Stephen Ministers are not counselors; they are trained lay caregivers. Their role is to listen and care — not to give advice or counsel. Stephen Ministers are also trained to recognize when care receivers’ needs exceed what they can provide. When that happens they work with care receivers to help them receive the level of care they really need.

Can I Trust a Stephen Minister?

Trust is essential to a caring relationship, and Stephen Ministers are people you can trust. Confidentiality is one of the most important principles of Stephen Ministry, and what a care receiver tells his or her Stephen Minister is kept in strictest confidence.

Why the Name Stephen?

The name Stephen comes from St. Stephen, who was the first lay person commissioned by the apostles to provide caring ministry to those in need as recorded in Acts 6.

What’s the Pastor’s Role?

Pastors will always be the primary caregivers, but there is no way pastors can meet all the needs for care. God has called all of us, not just pastors, to minister to one another. Stephen Ministry multiplies ministry by turning pastors into equippers, so they can enable lay people to provide caring ministry as well.

Where Did It All Start?

Stephen Ministry has been around since 1975, when Kenneth Haugk, a pastor and clinical psychologist, began it to multiply the caregiving in his congregation in St. Louis, MO. We have had Stephen Ministry here at Grace Lutheran Church since 2004 and are one of more than 8,000 Stephen Ministry congregations from more than 100 denominations. Stephen Ministries St. Louis, the organization behind this international ministry, is headquartered in Missouri.

How Can Someone Receive Care from a Stephen Minister?

Dave Weber and Ruth Klug are our Stephen Leaders who coordinate referrals. If you or someone you know could benefit from the care of a Stephen Minister, you can talk to them, Pastor Ken Langsdorf or any of our other Stephen Leaders. Any of our Stephen Ministers would also be happy to help you through the process. (If you want to talk about Stephen Ministry for someone else, make sure you get his or her permission first.)

How Much Does It Cost?

Stephen Ministry is a caregiving ministry available to our members and community free of charge.

How Can Someone Become a Stephen Minister?

Begin by talking to one of our Stephen Leaders or Stephen Ministers and they can tell you more. Stephen Ministers make a two-year commitment to train and serve.

What Does the Stephen Series Logo Mean?

The Stephen Series logo consists of a cross and circle together with a broken person and a whole person. The broken person behind the cross symbolizes the brokenness in our lives due to our sin and imperfections. The whole person stands in front of the cross because it is only through the cross of Jesus that we are made whole. The circle symbolizes both the wholeness we receive through Christ and God’s unending love for us.


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